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Junior’s Birth Story

Junior and Ted had dramatically different entrances into this world. After the experience of Ted’s birth, I spent a lot of my 3rd trimester with Junior preparing for postpartum & recovery. One thing that I did was keep active and take Chester for a walk every day. We walked (waddled) about 1.2 miles on a down & back trail in our town. We started walking the trail at 31 weeks, when Ted was able to go back to daycare. Before that we walked our driveway (0.5 mile down & back) until about 28 weeks, when the 30% incline hill halfway down, became too much. Every single morning, Chester and I would drop Ted off at daycare, then go do our 1 mile walk, including the morning of July 30.

39 weeks 2 days, less than 24 hours before baby!

It was later in the afternoon that day that I noticed that every time I stood up from sitting, lifted anything heavy (when I returned from Costco), or otherwise put pressure on my pelvic floor, I had a leaking sensation. I didn’t think that I was peeing myself (although pee leaks happen commonly in pregnancy too), but it also didn’t seem like regular vaginal fluid. So after dinner, I decided that it was time to call the hospital and get a professional opinion. Labor and delivery told me to come in and they’d check me out, if it was a leak in amniotic fluid, I’d be admitted and we’d have a baby within 24 hours! So I gave Ted a hug and kiss, told Michael I’d keep him updated, grabbed my hospital bag, and drove myself in.

Upon my arrival, all of the delivery rooms were full, so I waited in the lobby where families typically wait. It took about 20 minutes for them to finish cleaning a delivery room for me, so I wasn’t checked in until about 8pm. The nurse initially tested the fluid in the pad I was wearing to see if it was indeed amniotic fluid, and the results came back a weak, inconclusive positive. So she did a pelvic exam, with no gushing of fluid, and tested a sample from there. Still inconclusive. She then called the doctor in to take a swab and check it under the microscope, but it took nearly half an hour for him to come in. (Did I mention that L&D was FULL!) He assured me that based on the fact that when pressure was put on the amniotic sack and it didn’t gush, in his experience, it wasn’t likely to be a fluid leak, and that I’d probably be sent home. *Cue staring at the camera like The Office* When he came back (you guessed it) it was indeed amniotic fluid, and we were having a baby!

By now it’s well after 9pm, so I called Michael to update him and tell him that he’d need to find someone to watch Ted because we were having a baby before his mom could arrive the next day. Up to this point the only reason I knew I was having contractions was because the monitor was picking them up, so we had no reason to believe that Little Man was in any kind of hurry. But by 11pm contractions were increasing in intensity and frequency rapidly. So I called Michael, “I don’t think we’re going to make it to morning. I’d hate for you to have to wake someone at 3am because the baby won’t wait. You’d best call now and get Ted set up for the morning.” Our wonderful friends were able to come stay the night and keep an eye on Ted.

Michael arrived at the hospital around 1am, and we bunkered down to get what sleep we could. By 2:30am the contractions were painful enough that it was time for the epidural, but due to the filled-to-capacity L & D, it took the anesthesiologist an hour to get to me. After the meds, I was able to get a few more hours of sleep. (Thankfully!) The nurse told me to call her in when I felt the urge to push. What does that even mean?! With Ted, the epidural was so strong, I couldn’t feel anything so I had no idea what ‘the urge to push’ felt like.

At 6:20am, I realized what she meant. I pushed the call button, and when she did her exam, she said, “Normally I’d have you give a practice push, but don’t. Wait until the doctor gets in here.” Then she hustled out of the room to get the doctor. He came in and was surprised at how far along we were. He got Michael, himself, and the nurse in position, then it was time to push!

Jr’s first photo

6:51am brought Michael Jr into the world. They placed him directly on my chest, and Michael was able to cut the cord. We had an hour of uninterrupted skin to skin time, and they did all of his tests while he was on me. It was a relaxed and peaceful environment.

Going home day!

Jr’s birth was such a huge difference from the emergency, rushed feeling of Ted’s birth. But they did have a few things in common. Both were less than 24 hours from start to finish. Both had about 30 minutes of pushing. Both resulted in a healthy baby.

Top left is Junior. Bottom right is Teddy.

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Teddy’s Birth Story

Teddy is my first son, and I had NO IDEA what to expect when it came to labor and postpartum. (I also has no idea if he was a boy or girl.) I had been to the classes, read the books and blogs, watched vlogs, and asked family and friends, but there are so many things that can happen during labor & delivery. This is story of our adventurous Theodore!

Taking Teddy home!

During my pregnancy I didn’t have any Braxton Hicks contractions, so when the cramp-like feelings started Saturday mid-afternoon, we knew it was time! The contractions were still mild and sporadic, so we packed up Chester and went to the dog park. We knew he wasn’t going to be getting much exercise after baby came, so we made sure he had a last hurrah.

That night we slept on our pullout couch and watched movies in the living room. I downloaded a contraction timer app on my phone, and meticulously tracked my contractions. Needless to say, I didn’t get much sleep. Around 5am my contractions were about 1 minute in length, about 4 minutes apart, and had been for about an hour. That meant (according to our class) it was time to call the hospital! Since my water hadn’t yet broken, they said we could come in, but they may send us home. So I woke Michael, took Chester out, and got the house ready to go.

We arrived at L&D around 6am and they checked us in. They said that they’d monitor baby & I for 30 minutes, and if my water didn’t break, they’d send us home. 6:30am came and went, and when the nurses came back they were getting ready to let us go. Then, GUSH! My water broke. We were staying!

Around 7:15am the anesthesiologist came to give me an epidural, and after that things get a bit fuzzy. The meds worked REALLY well, and I couldn’t feel a thing. I drifted in and out of sleep (I had been up all night, remember). Baby’s heart rate was all over the place and kept dropping. They readjusted my position a few times, and at some point they had to inject synthetic amniotic fluid because I had lost so much when my water broke.

A little after 9:30am, I came to just in time to hear the doctor mention prepping the OR for an emergency C-section because baby needed to come out ASAP. They checked my dilation one more time, and I was at 10cm. No C-section needed! It was time to push.

I was still completely numb from the epidural, so I needed a lot of coaching about when to push. Baby’s heart rate was still dropping, so the doctor grabbed the forceps to help pull him out. I don’t remember a lot of Ted’s birth, but I specifically remember thinking, ‘It looks like he is pull starting a lawn mower. I’m so glad I can’t feel that. It looks painful.’

At 10:06am on July 1, 2018, Ted was born. They whisked him over to the baby station in the corner to check that his low heart rate during labor hadn’t caused any problems. Luckily, he was healthy and just had a black eye from the forceps.

Ted’s swollen black eye.

I, however, was a different story. They did end up needing that OR after all. I had severe tearing, and needed quite a few stitches. Michael was able to stay in the delivery room and do skin to skin with Ted while I was in the OR. All of this led to a long and arduous healing process, which I was not prepared for. (But that’s a story for a different post.)

Hospital snuggles with Teddy.

So all-in-all 3 hours of active labor, and 30 minutes of pushing (with some help). I have always heard that childbirth is an ordeal; it uses so many muscles and leaves you exhausted. That is not the experience that I had. Honestly, running a half marathon is still the most physically demanding thing I’ve ever done. It took me a long time to be okay with that, and not feel like I hadn’t ‘earned’ being a mom. (Silly, I know.) Just know that whatever your journey into motherhood, it is valid. You are a mom.

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What I Packed in My Hospital Bag

I used the same L.L. Bean tote as my hospital bag for both boys. It is just the right size for quick stay. I love that I can pack so much stuff in it!

Unlike many other people, we didn’t pack a bag for Michael, because he went home every day. So this post is going to be what I packed for myself and baby this second go ‘round. When I packed my hospital bag with Ted, I packed all of his things in the diaper bag and that was his ‘suitcase’. This time Michael still needed it at home for Ted, so I used packing cubes to separate his things from mine in the same bag.

This long-sleeve kimono onesie has rollover mittens!

Here are the 5 things I packed for Junior:

1. Sleeping gowns – These are a game changer with newborns! You don’t have to worry about pushing floppy newborn legs into pant legs. You don’t have to worry about trying to do up zippers when you’re exhausted and sleep deprived.

2. Baby nail clippers – I didn’t actually pack these initially, I had Michael bring them the day after Junior was born. He was born with super long nails (and has continued to grow them like crazy!) and kept scratching me when he was nursing. Most of the stuff that you need for baby, the hospital has, but they didn’t have these.

3. Blanket/swaddle – Again, the hospital has blankets, but I like to bring one that is a piece of home. Also, I am terrible at swaddling, so I love the Happiest Baby or Freshly Picked swaddles, that take the wrapping at out of it.

4. Going home outfit – This is the time to go crazy! Find the cutest outfit that suits your style. Ted came home in a Harry Potter themed outfit, and Junior wore dinosaur Little Brother pajamas.

5. Kimono style onesies – These are the BEST for when you’re in the hospital/first coming home. They are easy to put on (no trying to get floppy baby into a over-the-head shirt). They are also more forgiving of the belly button/umbilical clip that can get caught on an over the head shirt.

Getting ready to go home, wearing the comfiest pjs around.

As for myself, I packed a bit more but still tried to keep it minimal. The last thing you want is to be juggling a lot of stuff while having contractions!

1. Nursing friendly pajamas – I love these because they fit the bump the last few weeks of pregnancy, and I’m still wearing them 7 weeks postpartum! So soft and easy for nighttime feeds.

2. Blanket – Some people bring blankets and pillows, but I am okay using hospital pillows (trying to keep it minimal). If you have a special pillow, bring it! Make your stay feel cozy.

3. Nursing pillow – Honesty time. I didn’t bring my Bobby for nursing. After the traumatic birth of Ted, I sat on the Boppy for weeks. It took the pressure off of my stitches and made sitting comfortable. So I brought it this time, just in case that happened again.

4. Slippers – Socks work too! Just something to keep the hospital chill off of your toes. Again, go with whatever makes you comfortable.

5. Toiletries – I didn’t wash my hair while I was in the hospital, but I did shower ASAP after birth. I also had my makeup in there too. Doing my makeup makes me feel like a person and ready for the day, so I brought it as a in-hospital selfcare item.

6. Breast pump – If you are planning on pumping at all, I would suggest bringing your pump to the hospital. Will you use it, most likely not. But you can work with the on site lactation consultant to make sure you feel confident in how your pump works, and checking that you are using it correctly.

7. Going home outfit – I chose a flowy, chambray dress as my going home outfit. It’s not too fitted or tight, so it was comfortable. I was able to dress it up a little for some pictures too. Depending on the time of year that you give birth, you may also need to add a coat, or wear a shirt/joggers combo.

8. Support bloomers – These support bloomers from Bao Bei are a MUST HAVE postpartum. They are seamless, so they don’t irritate stitches. They are lightly compressing, so they provide just the right amount of support. And they are cute!

9. Long phone charger – You will need the longest phone charger you can find. Hospital beds are notoriously far away from plugins and you will be hanging out in your bed for most of your stay.

10. Nursing bras – I have been loving the pull down version of nursing bras this go ‘round. Last time, I used the clip ones. They work great, but sometimes Ted would be fussy and I would fumble around trying to clip or I clip my bra and it was inconvenient.

That was all that I brought with me! The hospital provides SO much stuff, that it seemed silly to me to bring it all with me. Especially since I ended up driving myself to the hospital! (See Junior’s Birth Story)

First day at home!

I hope this helps you to figure out what you will pack. Like all things in motherhood, do what is right for you. No two moms (and no two babies) are exactly the same. Enjoy your journey!

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Our Story

Our 3rd anniversary dinner.

Let’s start a the very beginning, it’s such a nice place to start (Name that movie!). It’s a hot day at the end of April/beginning of May 2015. I just came inside from doing yard work (read: sweaty mess), when I was volun-told by my friend to join a sand volleyball game that her friends were organizing. I staunchly refused, stating my obvious sweaty appearance and need for a shower as reason not to go. I was overruled. So I gathered up some lemonade and a cooler, because, dang it, if I was going to go embarrass myself in front of strangers, I might as well be hydrated. And off we went.

When we arrived, I greeted the people I knew, and we loitered around waiting for the organizers/people with the volleyball to show up. Mid-conversation, up pulls their car, and they get out. Great. Cute boys. Exactly what I wanted when I’m sweaty and haven’t showered. Well, there goes that opportunity to make a good impression. I guess I’ll just make the best of it. Literally my train of thought as Michael & Friends approach. So I resign myself to being the sweaty, stinky friend and have a blast attempting to play volleyball. At the end of the day, we all exchange numbers and agree to set up another game in the future.

The day we met. Sweaty, stinky friend in full force. Remind me again why Michael was interested??

A few weeks later, Michael texts me that the group is going to see Age of Ultron and asks if I want to join (Clue #1). I’ve already seen it, and being a poor college student who can’t afford to see the same movie twice, decline. I did check in the next day to ask his opinion of the movie though!

A few weeks later, Michael texts me with extra tickets to Country Stampede (a 3 day music festival in town) and asks if I can join him (Clue #2). Unfortunately, I’m out of town that weekend visiting friends.

A few weeks later, Michael texts me asking, direct quote: “Do you want to copilot a food adventure to the new BBQ place?” (Clue #3) My response, “Heck yea! I love BBQ.” (I’m the sweaty, stinky friend, remember?) So Michael picks me up (Clue #4) and drives to the restaurant. It’s not open that day, so we pick another place to get lunch. We sit down, have a great meal and even better conversation. Then it’s time to pay, and Michael takes the check (Clue #5, realization is dawning). On the drive home Michael sees the gears turning in my brain and helps me out. “I like casual dates, like this. They help you get to know each other better.” (Clue #6, a neon sign flashing ‘YOU’RE ON A DATE, DUMMY!) Total facepalm. That is the story of what we call ‘Michael’s First Date’.

My first date came about a month later, in August 2015, an invitation to a Military Ball. I was appropriately nervous and dressed up, as you should be for a first date. As I went to get into the car to drive to the event, I hear Michael yell from behind me ‘You touch it and you die!’ as he proceeded to get in front of me to open the car door. We have a great time, eat good food, and meet lots of people. Over the course of the evening at least 2 different people ask how long we’d been married, looking awkward and shocked when we told them that it was our first date. I guess it was a sign, huh?

Did I mention I got this haircut that week? 16 inches gone, just like that.

We had been dating for a few months by the time Halloween rolled around. Michael was back home in Virginia on leave visiting his family, and I had a bunch of girlfriends in town for the weekend. Unbeknownst to either of us, we were having similar conversations with our friends/family. I was told ‘You’re going to marry this guy, aren’t you?’ to which I responded, ‘You can’t say that, we’ve only been dating a few months. Only a crazy person would marry someone they just met.’ Notice it’s not a ‘No,’ It’s a ‘I won’t say yes, because I’m not a crazy person.’ Michael left out the ‘I’m not crazy’ bit, and just admitted what we both already knew.

Our first Christmas together. Michael was on duty that day, but swung by before work to exchange gifts.

He proposed January 17, 2016 after a visit to my parents’ house in Texas. We were walking through the grounds of the Houston Temple, when he made me turn around because ‘I missed THE spot’, and he got down on one knee. We set the date for July, and navigated through a whirlwind of a 6 month engagement.

We did it!

On July 2, 2016 I said the easiest ‘Yes!’ of my life in front of our friends and family. It was a great day, and I couldn’t ask for a better person to spend eternity with. We are now in year 4 of forever. We have 2 kids and a dog. We have lived in (soon to be) 3 states. We have learned and grown together, but I think we will always remain the girl who was too oblivious to know she was being asked on a date and the guy stubborn enough to keep trying anyway.

A (somewhat) recent family photo.

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Why Blogging?

Maria, why are you starting a blog? Great question; I’m not quite sure yet. When I was on maternity leave from teaching with Teddy, our oldest, I found myself feeling very isolated. We lived in a rural community, in the backwoods of Vermont, and I had no family close by. So when the time came that I had questions about the brand new world of parenting, what did I do? Like any good Millennial, I turned to the internet. I read blogs, watched vlogs, and followed other moms on social media. I learned a lot that way, but more importantly I felt a part of a community.

In January 2020, we found out that Michael’s unit was being deployed later in the year and it made us rethink our plans for the upcoming school year. We decided that with a toddler and a newborn, commuting an hour (each way) to work every day wasn’t going to work for me while he was gone. So we started to prepare for me becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom. Then COVID-19 hit. It was (and still is) a crazy, hectic time for teachers. I suddenly had my full time job, a toddler home full time, and was in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy. Did I mention that Michael was an essential worker, working 12 hour night shifts at a surge hospital? It was overwhelming to say the least. In my time balancing all of the things, I realized that there were so many things I didn’t know about having a toddler. So I did the thing that I always do when I have a spark of passion/curiosity and I researched the crap out of all things developmentally appropriate for a 2 year old; eating habits, play habits, routines, social/emotional development. You name it, I researched it.

As I debated working vs. staying home, I realized that what I really want is to stay home with my boys, but also do something for myself. I wasn’t sure what that meant, but I knew I wanted to use my passion for teaching, my new found knowledge of early childhood development, and the Mama Community I had found in some way.

Thus the parenting blog idea was formed. I am by no means an expert in any one area of childhood development, but I hope to gather resources and experts in different fields and have them all in one place that parents can come to when they need help. If you have any specific topics that you want me to cover, please contact me! This space is a place where I can share all of the information that I have learned, but it is ultimately for you, parents.